Theme: Apno Ko Apne Dum Pe Jeena Sikhao. Write a blog post about how a family member has guided and encouraged you to grow into a better, more self-reliant person.
My father was a hardworking man of much knowledge but with no particular interest in his own life. He was there in my life from the day I was born. I have lots of influence of him in me. I keep recounting that day when he saved my life when I was about 2-3years old by making me habituated to regular food items as the baby food was not suiting me and I was forced to eat that which made me sick often by not having proper diet. I suppose, then, that I should feel grateful to my father for making his lifesaving decision to change my diet, gratitude on my part will always remain.
I do remember his method of toughening me up for life and making sure that I became self-reliant. I was seven years old, I was playing barefoot outside with my friends in the playground near to home, while my father stood talking to some neighbours. A small truck parked with sand was nearby, along with friends I climbed up the truck, burning my already burnt feet, I ran to my father, asking him to pick me up. He refused.
I screamed papa my feet are burning, I was hoping on one foot.
He replied go home, put your shoes, but he did not help me.
I ran home, cleaned my feet with cold water, wore shoes and got back to playing.
It’s been years this incident happened but I never asked my father why he did not help me or what his intention was.
I asked nothing of my father after that, which was perhaps his intention, and I grew up without his influence, which was perhaps not his intention.
A few weeks back, I took my nephew to the locality playground; he removed his shoes and played barefoot. The ground was getting a bit hot, and I asked my nephew if his feet were burning, he said yes, I immediately picked him up and told me my story.
My nephew never met his grandfather (my father) this was the first time he was told a story related to him, he immediately said Uncle you have a bad father. I explained him that he wasn’t a bad man, just a tough man. I spoke of other things and told my nephew that as a son, husband, father, head of the family, senior most member my father was all rounder – mentor, the trouble-shooter, the caretaker of his wife and 4 children.
I am now a grown up matured man, my father’s refusal to help me did have the effect that he wanted, in part. It toughened me up and made me more self-reliant. His approach was tough but if we think broadly, it made a positive influence on me.
I am a self-reliant person to understand what self-reliance truly means.
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