Join Ariel #ShareTheLoad to reduce gender prejudices in Gen Next! (2)


According to science, during the first stage of our pre-birth development, the basic female form was predominant in every human. Although we are conceived as a male or female, this is not settled until after first five to six weeks of fetal life. The signs of the differentiation started after this initial period inside the womb and later after arriving in the world. Since times immemorial, the world has set some pre-defined parameters for what a man can (should) do and what a woman needs to do. They expect a man to be strong by all means – physically, emotionally and financially; while the women are expected to be delicate, soft and support their male counterpart which includes doing the household chores. Males were just supposed to assist the family monetarily and get relieved of his duty.

The initial education and upbringing makes a lot of impact on a person’s life. How they will lead in their various role in the time to come. As I look back into my childhood I remember my father as the sole earning body of our nuclear family of six members, my parents and four siblings, extensively involved with his banking job and social development works. Yet he was concerned about every family member’s comfort. Household works of cleaning, washing and grocery was never a problem with handy servants, a driver and peon. Nevertheless, in order to make us learn how to get things done, he had instructed my mother to let us take care of our personal responsibility individually, under her guidance; which included washing our own clothes and ironing them irrespective of gender discrimination. His unequivocal objective was to make us a civilised and independent person who can live under extreme conditions.

The early days learning had helped me a lot at every stage of life, especially when I stepped out of my home to earn and find my own place in the society. Living alone in a studio apartment during those initial days, I didn’t find any problem doing my laundry even manually, which my other friends found it extremely difficult to handle. As time lapsed, I became habituated to do my own laundry that I didn’t find my clothes washed by someone else to be clean. Now it’s over ten years I have been using a washing machine to do my laundry, but now I am not limited to my own wardrobe. At times, I do it for the entire house: bed linens and curtains & covers almost everything; and I feel happy to #ShareTheLoad of my family.

Being single I do not have my own child in my family but I am committed to extending my learning to my Gen Next. Our society is built of our own perceptions and thinking. We pile the concrete foundation of our customs. It is the time we should change our discernment towards females. Our mothers, sisters, wives and daughters are our backing at every step of life. It’s time we men should be their support.

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I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.

Join Ariel #ShareTheLoad to reduce gender prejudices in Gen Next! – (1)


My family feels happy that I am a part of them.  On Sunday or whenever I am off from work I make a point to help my mother/sister in the household chores such as cooking and laundry.

We have children in family and I feel it is very important to take in household chores in the daily routine to one and all irrespective of their gender as children would learn watching us. I have colleagues who make differences between male and female and say that a girl has to learn how to clean and cook or how else will she live on after getting married?

I always ask them what if tomorrow their son grows up to have a working wife where he will be eating canned food or has his clothes unwashed for weeks together. How would their sons’ get along in such situation? All I get it malicious comments from them.

Being a man, I do my own laundry and I don’t depend on my sister to do it for me. From a young age I learnt about separating the whites from the coloured clothes, the delicate from the rough, the amount of detergent and the duration of the washing machine. I do not dislike the traditional way of washing clothes by using a bucket, before the machine I did wash my own laundry in this way.  Seeing me do the household chores whenever possible, especially laundry, my mom and sister teases me to be a professional in it.

Not many families are as fortunate as mine to have a man setting a good example of sharing the load at home. Many mothers and sisters often complain that their sons and brothers just sit while they clean up the mess in the house, wash the clothes, put them to dry, fold them and keep them in the cupboards. I am glad I have no such things to hear.

What interests me is that doing household work increases the sense of self-assurance and responsibility of everyone at home including children. Whenever my nephews are at home, I make sure they help me in the work. I am lucky that the kid’s don’t say NO and are very much interested in learning and giving a helping hand.

My nephew is growing up fast, instead of ordering him, I tell him let us do this together and I explain him that it is for the family that we are doing this not for ourselves. In the past as I lived alone, I have a habit of scheduling my time to devote to household chores and now though I live with my family, I still do the same and I am passing the same habit to the younger generation. I strongly feel there has to be a transfer in the distribution of housework between family members. Every house has only one of its kind states of affairs but there needs to be a fundamental understanding when it comes to doing household chores.

Seeing me do my own laundry and helping women of the house in kitchen, my nephew feels no shame in helping me which are stereotyped to be ‘women’s jobs’. Washing clothes is not just a mother’s job; I have been able to make kids of my house understand this. I do make them involve in household tasks which I try to turn into enjoyable and appealing so that they learn while having fun.

I advise every man to become a role model for his own children or for the children of the family by sharing the load.

Please see this video, how would you feel as a man when you imagine 20 years ahead from today, you see your daughter or daughter in law doing all the work while her husband or your son sitting idle or watching TV while the woman runs around managing the kitchen, kids, laundry and her office work? Would you feel happy about what you taught them? It’s not too late; you can start now to #ShareTheLoad.

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I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.

Valentine’s day with Jabong


When it comes to shopping for my sweetheart, on Valentine’s Day, I don’t like settling for just flowers, chocolates or some shiny bling. She is someone who enjoys sleeping under the stars and never met a challenge she couldn’t handle.

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Handbags are always a hot item during Valentine’s Day season. But how can I not gift one to that girl who loves her bags very much? Be it for her intense dinner look or casual meeting this red coloured handbag from Zoricane will certainly do justice to both. She can carry it on her wrist and look like a diva wherever she goes.

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I want her to change her dressing style a bit for that I would gift her fashionable red skirt from Lemon Chillo. This pencil skirt can be wonderfully worked with a black coloured top by Riot Jeans which has a nice v cut neck to complete the look.

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To add further, she goes bonkers over shoes. She has many but still I picked these black stilettos from Dorothy Perkins. The beautiful floral, lace pattern, would enhance her appeal instantly.

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I have complied the gifts for my girl from Jabong’s Valentine’s Day gifts corner. For those who prefer to shop online, and skip the mall, this place is for all the Vday gift needs.

#AdventureNme: What is adventure for you? (2)


Adventure and risk-taking are the main essence of my life. I believe in what Andre Gide said, “Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” This quote has been inspiration for me and allows me to take risks and clinch adventure. Right from roundabout route of my every day work schedule to hit the beach and tackle the sport of cricket, plan a road trip with buddies, or jump on a last minute flight to a destination unknown, there are endless possibilities of adventure waiting for me to be tackled. I never wait around for adventure to come to me. I take it as life is about discovery of joys by putting yourself out of the comfort zone to bring about things that you wouldn’t in general anticipate yourself to achieve, for me in easy words this defines adventure. In my point of view, without adventures our life would be just like an empty book. Sometimes I imagine a trip in the Amazonia jungles or travel into space or to just get into a travel mode without a map or walk with blind fold on. However, it is not essentially something hazardous. It could be something simple as well, like fighting with pillows with my nephew, for example. But the feeling itself is hard to be explained. It is like everyday food for our spirit.

My adventure was to enter college. It was with hard work and devotion that I thrived. This achievement was the conclusion of my academic life. My determination and ambitions brought me at the college building few years ago. I passed my exams and it was time for deserved rest. It was then when I realised that success comes with hard work and a little bit of talent. I have achieved this by myself. It was my dream and I never turned back on it. I never lost my way towards fulfilling my dream. I am super thrilled by risky financial ventures which are capable of making or breaking them. I dabble in the Stock Market, in Shares which can shoot up or zoom down without even the experts being able to forecast it. As I dream of turning into an entrepreneur, which means growing rich fast and I am ready to take the extreme risks involved in this. However I feel this adventure is only for the brave like me as I strongly believe in the age old proverb of ‘NO RISK, NO GAIN’.

To be adventurous does not mean only to be courageous physically all the time; it can be brave from heart. It means also not to forget what you have fought for and always to have fun with what you do. And most of all you must consider that it is not always obvious what the challenge you will face is or whether the consequence will alter your life or not.

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#AdventureNme: What is adventure for you?


If anything gets me an instant adrenaline rush it is definitely the word ‘adventure’. An idea of getting high something never tried before is flawlessly unparalleled to almost everything in this world. I guess it is a very obvious desire for me to be adventure hungry. But when it comes to defining it, it turns difficult. The possibilities of dreaming to do the undone, walking out of that little cosy cove of mine (in general terms the comfort zone), where impossible excites me and the challenges wait to be tackled. It’s a chance to think up of that which creates a bubble of probable self-assurance in me to carry out a task that is pretty new or extraordinary. The fun in engaging in exploring the newness, the unusualness, and the awesomeness of an adventure makes me want to never grow older. But every phase or stage of time holds different fundamentals of adventure.  If you haven’t tasted the panic, the excitement, the ambitious burn up, the roaring keenness, the willingness to get damaged or risk it, then you haven’t known adventure for real. It’s simply the thoughts, the wishes, and the desires that enhances up the self-esteem and drugs me to feel highly stimulated. Well I am not talking about bungee jumping or climbing Mt. Everest or even fighting a bull, or going on a safari ride.

The word adventure itself has been the driving force to get me up stable in situations where I feel low. It has a charm of its own that makes me want to say “I can totally do this!” (I suggest you should try) It is a process of self-discovery into unknown wild spaces that you did not figure out about yourself until yet. To relate it to every stage in your life you come across to be difficult, helps into breaking down the internal barriers which we usually call anxiety, insecurity or depression. After every new idea of experimenting with me and things that I can do slowly eliminates the blockades one by one, until one day none will be left and I look forward to that. That relieves the way I can project those things to be actually done that seemed unfeasible once, the hope to try it keeps jumping inside my wide awake like a little child who just got a toy to play with. I take my life as an adventure, where I break out of the repetitiveness of my regular continuation and give buoyancy to myself to do the unlike! I never know, I might just make it take place.

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#SoftestForBabySkin -(2)


Baby’s are known for their soft skin which is very delightful to touch and it is very important to take extra care of their skin often more carefully than your own. The baby’s skin is sensitive and prone to bouts of the occasional irritating skin problem which causes irritation to baby and you. It is important to only use baby products or the products recommended by doctors on baby’s skin. Here are a few tips for taking care of baby’s skin.

  1. Babies are not advised for a daily bath. Twice or thrice a week is really as much as necessary. Cleaning the diaper area as often is essential. Frequent bathing dries out skin and remove oils and other substances that protect against infections and other irritants. Until infants are about one year old, it’s best to use soaps and shampoos that are specifically formulated for this age group as these products are ‘nontoxic,’ containing no or few dyes, deodorants, alcohols and other ingredients that can be harmful to baby skin. Hygiene needs to be careful and a little sponge bath in between baths is good enough.
  2. Wash the baby’s hair at regular intervals. Cradle cap is very common in babies. Gently wash the scalp with an appropriate no tears shampoo that hopefully will put off cradle cap. Don’t pick at cradle cap and avoid using shampoos that are not specifically formulated to deal with the flakes associated with cradle cap.
  3. While moisturizing is encouraged, the baby’s skin should not be left damp. Moisture gets in into folds — areas made up of thin, irritable skin prone to rashes. To prevent redness, chaffing and peeling, cleaning all of baby’s nooks twice a day is recommended. Rashes clear up in few days, but if you want you can apply Vaseline to help sooth baby’s discomfort.
  4. Insects are outdoors as well indoors but that doesn’t mean you allow them to bite the skin and damage baby’s skin. Proper clothing which would protect skin from the sun helps to protect the baby from the bugs and insects too. It’s also safe to use DEET-based insect repellents on babies over two months old. Spray it on your hands and then rub it onto exposed skin, avoiding the mouth and eyes.
  5. You can further keep baby’s skin protected by dressing him/her in loose-fitting clothing, to prevent chafing. As the baby grows, their skin will adapt and grow along. You may also notice baby’s skin peels slightly – especially on the palms, hands, soles and ankles. This is perfectly normal. Just remember to apply a moisturiser made for babies to help maintain soft skin.

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#SoftestForBabySkin -(1)


Baby’s skin is very thin and sensitive, and different from adult’s skin. No doubt everyone loves to feel baby’s smooth skin but what they do not know is that it is very difficult to keep baby’s skin safe and healthy. Not one but a variety of skin conditions occur in babies and some skin care products may help, while others worsen those problems. Here are some important tips to keep baby’s skin smooth that anyone can put it to use when it comes to taking good care of baby skin.

  1. Massages a great way to bond with babies and also a great way to keep their skin soft and healthy too. The best time for a massage is after a bath because baby’s skin is plumped up and hydrated and can hold the moisture from an oil or lotion better for a longer time.
  2. It is important to keep the baby away from direct sunlight. For babies under 6 months it is a must that sunscreen should be used only on small areas of the body. Above 6months old babies, it’s safe to use sunscreen all over exposed areas, but test it before you use to check for allergies. With underdeveloped sweat glands, babies are vulnerable to heat rash and to prevent this, dressing them in loose clothing and a hat helps.
  3. While a little rash here and there is predictable among babies, but we can minimize the problems of diaper rash by changing diapers every two hours (longer for older babies), cleaning baby’s bottom thoroughly and applying a good diaper cream if the baby needs it such as petroleum ointment or white zinc oxide.
  4. Try to avoid talc, lanolin, and fragrance as they can all potentially irritate baby’s skin. One must choose a baby-friendly detergent to wash those adorable clothes which will be rubbing up against baby’s skin. Baby products that are free of harsh or dangerous chemicals are highly recommended. It’s also important that when you choose clothing and bedding for the baby make sure it the fabric is skin friendly. Look for soft materials, such as cotton, that will be easy on skin.
  5. Another common rash in infants is dry skin that often appears on baby’s cheeks and forehead. This is treated by baby’s paediatrician who would prescribe gentle creams to handle the dryness. Apart from these rashes, few babies baby’s smooth skin baby acne. They come in form of little pink spots on the skin due to hormones from the mother, but it clears away without any special care.

“Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is #SoftestForBabySkin and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy. ”